ANGER AND ITS MANAGEMENT

ANGER AND ITS MANAGEMENT

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          Have you ever seen some one like an angry, fearsome and frowning beast? Even a single glance of his/her may devour you. There are many, nowadays, afflicted with this disease. Anger is the built-up, persistent result of non-adjustment, intolerance, incompetence, cussedness and not moving with times. Some one has correctly said that a bad workman quarrels with his tools. He always thinks that only he is right and that is how his thoughts shape his future. Lord is throbbing in the hearts of us all. We are all equal and hence do not deserve any kind of discrimination and vengeance. Divinity is present in all of us and we have to search, feel and understand. Recklessly venting out anger is like bursting of a dam with colossal amount of water or spewing of molten lava by a volcano or like quelling the fire with inflammable material. The body of an angry person becomes like a furnace fuelled by the heat of revenge. Revenge is hindrance in socializing. One can not mix with all sorts of persons as they will try to avoid him. Revenge is also a stumbling block for inner enlightenment and blossoming. The condition of an afflicted person is like the tidal waves of sea colliding with one another finding no way to reach the shore. Some look, seemingly, very calm and composed but inwardly they are burning with the vicious fire of revenge. We should be very careful about the sensitive feelings of others and not give colour to religion, caste or region in hatred or revenge which adds fuel to the fire. It is very easy to entangle an infuriated and tense person to stoke his anger and allow him to commit mistakes every now and then on flimsy grounds.

                                                                                                                                

          One who is heavily loaded with anger, agitation, jealousy, arrogance and hatred his life is mired with disruptions as he can not focus his attention towards life’s goals. He drains his energies haplessly without any gain while avenging a revenge without application of mind and is more prone to be ditched by some one more intelligent to him. He will confront any one under a small pretext and create greater problems with personal vendetta. He will remain at odds, obscure and his mental quietude is absent. With this intricate mindset he reaches the impasse soon and even stonewalled by his opponents. He may be ostracized by the society. Such persons, ultimately, fall into booze traps and other addictions leading to mental illness which decrease potency, make him isolated and pig-headed. If unchecked in time the vengeance leads to vicious and unpleasant acts of terrorism. People will raise fingers at him, taunt him and pass objectionable remarks. He may become a talk of the town. The afflicted person will wound his opponent, without an arrow, with his raged and dreaded looks which act as blistering attacks. He will thus become a target of innocent persons he has harmed with their curses. In the long run he will find himself ablaze drenched with hatred, revenge, rancour and inner conflicts. He will feel as if the flares of these vices are annihilating him fast resulting in sufferings of all sorts of reverses.

          A man is known by the company he keeps and his qualities. People with benign character, glory and wisdom are always exemplified. It is therefore necessary to mend ourselves and hone our instincts. Some people, to meet their ends, take refuge of exorcism or voodoo to take revenge from some one which is a devilish act and mischievous one and self destructive. Such people require counseling by the psychiatrists, social workers, saints and exalted souls etc. otherwise they will go cynically mad. Their wandering energy is to be directed and channeled for some good cause and service of mankind. They should attend meditation courses to calm down their nerves, to check behavioural and emotional problems and also attend congregations of the saints for the betterment of their lives and of the society. The complicated and obstinate persons are required to be mentally throttled, reined in, disciplined and rehabilitated by the erudites from time to time as such type of persons possess low level of self-control. It is most important to transform their malicious and vicious thoughts and view points into virtuous ones. Observance of silence is a panacea to counter all sorts of ills of anger.

          Spirituality and religion play miracles and important role for such persons and God’s ways are impossible to interpret. The outrageous persons deeply require study of autology, science of self. The sense organs are to be controlled and tamed to apply a brake whenever required as the ugly situation is caused due to heightening and imbalance of chemical known as serotonin, linked to moods, in our brains resulting in clouding our wisdom. One should surrender and submit to the Lord and take His refuge to the core, repent for forgiveness of his past mistakes and promise to obey His commandments in future to unburden his sorrows, sufferings and maladies. Lord will rescue you always unharmed, without a single bruise, otherwise the size of your bundle of worries will go on increasing, very difficult to off load later on without excruciating pain. Swami Sivananda rightly said, “There is a sharp sword in our tongue. One hard word or a mild rebuke breaks a long standing friendship and results in fighting and actual bloodshed.” Life is not always hunky dory. It is like passing through sizzling heat. Only His bosom provides us cool shade. One day every one has to depart from this infinite world, then why to think even about taking revenge. We have to answer the Lord about our follies.

          Sometimes the circumstances compel us to demonstrate our anger in disapproval of some thing. The wise people may act in this direction to rectify or discipline some one but never take their feelings to their own hearts. We should try our best to control our impulsive thoughts and actions otherwise we will be deprived of all sorts of joys, respect, love and relations. One should be ever watchful and attune/ adjust his mental faculties to lead peaceful life. Forgiveness, let-go, tolerance and remorse act as soothing balm even on the festering wound. Forgiveness is more powerful than taking revenge. Try these suggestions which are like icing on the cake otherwise the result of our vengeance will stare us in our face one day. Mind that world is evanescent (fast fading) but the result of our actions is not. The sizzling embers of rage and revenge must be silenced immediately. We should learn etiquettes of life and not remain boor (ill-mannered) , wish others with beaming smile and humour, say sorry, excuse me, God bless you, and thank you etc. which have cooling effects and bridge many wide gaps and confusions in life. These small words of gesture and courtesy straighten many wrinkles and thaw even the knotty

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