HUG LOVE, TURN AWAY
LUST
_A P ANAND
LOVE:
Love is the basis of creation and existence. It is a social bondage till
we understand its detached form. Love is not cosmetic but an eternal flame
within when the balanced and warm minds and hearts meet. If it is love, it
should be pure with deep affection and unalloyed like 24 carats gold. It is a
sacrifice as you prioritize the needs of others and not your own. Love carries
with it utter responsibilities whereas lust is devoid of it. Love is not a love
in real sense till it is given away and in return you receive love, faith and
understanding in your kitty. There is no fixed formula for falling in love with
someone. It depends on matching and striking parallel fate lines of likeminded
and to be filled with love and admiration instantly. Love breeds and spreads
wings in all directions. Unconditional love reaches its pinnacles and becomes
satisfying . Such clean and healthy emotional bonds are enduring. There are no
barriers of any kind between the lovers and none is loser or winner. Love is
never conditional otherwise it is impure and implies bargaining. Someone has
rightly said that you don’t love a woman because she is beautiful; she is
beautiful in your eyes because you love her. The moment you start realizing
that the spirit or “Atma” or soul thriving in you and the other being is the
same, you have reached the corridors of spirituality and oneness. Saint Rahim
says,“ Do not snap the thread of love by a jerk, once snapped, it cannot be
rejoined without a knot.”
Love is sacred and platonic and comes with cool mind and compassion and
increases its compressive strength. The warmth and closeness of the children
during adolescence with their mothers have rocking love lives later. The
realization of love comes in our minds when we rise above the pedestal 0f
religion in exalted state and view the whole creation in oneness under the
spectrum of spirituality. Also love comes with faith, confidence, tolerance and
forgiveness. Life without these attributes is meaningless. You have to,
constantly, keep the plant of love watering and look after it, nurture it, for
its healthy growth. Love does not consist, simply, in gazing into each other’s
eyes but looking together in the same direction. Sometimes, your mind-set
changes favourably and you start loving even your arch rival due to corrections
taking place and misconceptions removed. You will find so many pearls in the
deep sea of love, only if you take a plunge and delve deeper in your endeavour.
Love is ever lasting and sweet like honey. Love is a nectar bath and
panacea for all ills. Love and happiness boost our immune system. Love gives
beauty to everything it touches and negates ego. It is a good shock-absorber
and off loads/ tides over many worries. Love bridges many gulfs and quenches a
lot of anger. With love we can tackle many intricate problems and transform
even the hard-headed. A person with qualities of love is not a savaged
(hostile) one. The love produces many feel-good chemicals in our brain. Also
love hormones called oxytocin promote social bonding and trust. These allay
fear, reduce stress and help in de-addiction. Love blooms love, heals many
wounds and the garland of love made out of selected flowers embellishes and
acts as a protective shield against all evils coming close to the wearer and
wafts its sweet fragrance everywhere. The great magnetic power of lovers can
bring them closer even from far off distances.
God, an Absolute, receives His love from us and returns with bountiful
grace. We should love the Formless Lord who is ever pervading under all
circumstances and is Father of all creation, visible and invisible. He is seen,
observed and experienced by the arch devotees through their intellect even
during difficult times. Such devotees are fully intoxicated and absorbed in the
grace and bliss of Supreme Lord. One should have yearning/ longing in one’s
eyes shedding tears due to separation and his/ her heart should outcry for Lord
and drool after Him. Those filled with love become hoary figures in the long
run. Let us maintain, preserve and honour the true values and sanctity of love
and faith.
LUST:
Lust means intense
sexual desire which is difficult to control. Temptation/ ambition and greed for
unwanted/ needless worldly possessions are also a lust. Someone has said, “ As
the vision, so is the world,” which is true for lust also. At the same time it
is also said that all human beings are the product of love and passion. So,
choose one for your produce. Clinging to just facial, gorgeous or glamorous
beauty is lust and not virtuous insight and considering it real in ultimate
sense will result only in sufferings. Mind it; all that glitters is not gold.
Our body is a lump of flesh, bones and refuse and to be swayed away or long for
it in attraction is superfluous. Some are attracted towards fancy contours of
eyes or curvaceous body of the opposite sex which is also lust. Don’t attach
too much importance to body as it is not a permanent thing, only the hellish
species may think so as the monster is inside them. Even the saints etc. have
faced ugly situations to control their temptations/ urges. In lust one may not,
necessarily, seek inspiring looks but lasting “qualities”. Lust is voluptuous(
fond of luxury and sensual pleasures) act and a person smitten with such acts also
becomes a voyeur and is alienated from divine society. Lust produces, even,
shameful incest which is of beastly nature.
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As per “Times of India”
dated March 15,2011 The American Psychiatric Association has officially declared
that sex addiction is a psychiatric illness. All impurities are rooted in the
craving for sense pleasures. The saints, sages and clerics exhort us to keep to
celibacy and to achieve this end they advise us to keep intact our semen, a vital
energy, virginity, and control of sense organs and live in healthy style which
are the source of orgasm. It is not out of place to mention here that even the
water in a dam is under pressure and may burst if the weirs are not provided to
control its flow. In the same way a pressure cooker is provided with a pressure
release valve. Our scriptures, very often, alert us to resist and rather
subjugate or channelize them for virtuous tasks. If not done so, our meandering
impulses and senses like lust, anger, attachment, illusion, greed and ego will
uproot us. If we allow them to rule us and dwell on them, we will lose
everything as the lust, in our context, will defame us badly. Beauty is to
observe, enjoy and praise but not to dwell on it. We should enjoy the pleasures
of life but not to be lost in them. Lust results in degradation. We hanker
after sex, wealth, power and fame which are also the off shoot of lust.
Cuddling and kissing of opposite sexes, especially in youth, or making sexual
overtures like flirting tend to rouse lust, vulgarity and adultery. Attraction
and repulsion rob us of our valuable spiritual wealth. Ravana, though highly
enlightened, was very lustful and fell from his grace and spiritual path. One
sided lust ruins one’s life being a fling and like a moth in a fit of lust
losing life while hovering, floundering and stomping on a dazzling flame or as
the borer dies with the wheat when ground.
Lust comes with passion and its
result is horrendous and disastrous as one becomes sexual oriented. One loses
meaning and charm of life and enthusiasm to face difficulties. Lust induces
sins and leery/ obscene looks and gestures with oblique motive and may, even,
pass on lewd remarks against opposite sexes, exchange glances and/ or touch
their erogenous (arousing sexual excitement) zones. One lacks moral principles.
A person with lust remains in burn-out syndrome due to presence of chemical,
Amygdala, in brain causing many
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imbalances. He may
castigate others to cover-up his own short comings. If left unchecked, such
persons will blunt their faculties and soon waste their life energy.
The marriages with intention of seeking dowry and other costly
possessions or throwing lavish parties do not last for a long time. This is an
unhealthy craving system. Gay and lesbian marriages are also acts of lust and
not in a natural order for gaining supreme purpose of bliss. Wearing of skimpy, revealing, provocative and
sensuous clothes encourage lust and is not an ideal way of living. Also
reveling by punk rock dancing in pubs, clubs, consuming alcohol and viewing
ugly films add problems in our lives as these are debauchery acts. In case lust
is not controlled in time one becomes characterless.
Where will you go un-noticed from the
eyes of Supreme Lord about your deeds and misdeeds? If the love is romantic and
not divine in the beginning, it should be replaced by intimate pure love in the
long run. Sensual love pampers the body whereas spiritual love is balm for the
soul. Love takes us to heavens but lust entangles us and pulls us down. So, be
careful and choose only platonic love to lead happy life. May be, your name is
etched in the annals of divine history. How nicely an Urdu poet has explained
in an ode in utter dismay about the worldly love, “Ae muhabat tere anjaam pe rona aaya” ( O love you have resulted in
shedding tears ). The Pope Benedict XVI has said these words about the subject
matter, “It is a task which relates to person’s growth towards humanity. When
it is not integrated within the person, sexuality becomes banal and
destructive.”
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