TONGUE LASHING AND ITS GRIM CONFLICTS
_ A P ANAND
The subject matter of tongue lashing
comes under behavioural sciences and also ‘Sadhna’ (search rigorously for
truth) for improvement through inward voyage. It is an instinct of weakness due
to which one will form this addiction and pollute his mind, may be, to vent out
his feelings/ thoughts/ views deeply buried inside for a long time. It is like
sowing the seed of unwanted crop. The failure to check this instinct in time
will be construed to loss or lack of will power, self-control, discipline and
path of action on which holy Gita stresses a lot. Also one will become a
personality of perverted mind and despondency and a dark era will dawn and many
evils will overpower him. The failure to nip the follies and guilt in the bud
will result in the situation that will become uncontrollable at later stage.
Also all vices will raise their dragon heads to destroy the doer and his
faculties. Repeated endeavour can result in achieving the desired goal of any
kind. Those who do not pay heed to proper counselling and still lash their
tongue with sarcastic and vile language prove as a sharp instrument instead of
soothing one, for the sensitive person, it is better to ignore them completely.
They are mentally sick and disordered (suffering from schizophrenia) and have
fallacy (mistaken belief) towards everything and will hardly cede to the
beneficial suggestions of others. In such an ugly situation he may be branded
as a lunatic, misguided and wretched person.
It is difficult to confide/ repose
faith of secrecy in persons of above said traits as they may prove dangerous to
expose you to your enemies and sometimes, to drive mileage, may change sides
against you to create fractured situation and weave tangled relations.
Therefore, one should not wrangle over useless talk and weave a cobweb/ trap
around himself through which he will never be able to extricate. It is silence
only which is golden and cleanses the mind and results in calmness for one’s
own well being.
Tongue lashing is a trait of shallow
personality and the victim may imbibe hawkish acts, not being a level headed
person but a problematic one. He will falsely try to shore up his image. He may
use language laced with hatred, anger, arrogance and revenge. It is possible that out of jealousy, ruse or enmity
someone may tempt/ use his perverted mind against you for unwise/ wrong
actions. Also being a fussy person he may give fleeting references and
create a ripple with his undesired
and unwanted talk or a brawl to his advantage. Sometimes he becomes emotional
and his mind and thoughts start flickering and swinging, becomes an oblivion,
and he may not co-operate with anyone. He may become a bipolar personality and
not an awakened one. He will not be a penitent for his mistakes but will cry
wolf to buttress his stand or play down the truth or turn Nelson’s eye towards
reality, retract his outpourings or opt the denial mode and may, sometimes, cool
the heels. Sometimes he has to lick his own words which may affect his
influence in the society. He may impose the law of strength instead of law/
morals/ ethics/ noble ideas/ social consideration or propriety. Due to his
wrong views and actions he may even bite the hands that fed him.
Apart from above he will become
fanatic. Being an impatient and impulsive he will doubt in everything and
everybody which is contrary to the law of faith, most important and necessary
for achievements. Due to his wavering mind-set and outspoken personality and hypocritical
and hostile attitude he may cock-up (spoil or ruin) relations with anyone and
become pessimistic. On not caring for the valuable advice he may, often, turn
the guns towards his well-wishers. Thus he may prove himself a slanderer and
create predicament (difficult situation) for you and slip in depression/
gloomy, squeezed and sick state. Thus he will impede his self esteem and may
become a thorn in the bosom of many. Many times due to loose talk and not
mending fences such persons will push you to the brink and get you log jammed.
They smoke-screen the realities of life and cross the bounds of civility and
decency. Their aimless and lengthy talk will tire him and you and make, both,
breathless/ panting/ exhausted/ like a simmering wick and considered as a spent
force. Wild and lengthy talk will sap one’s energy in the form of oxygen stored
in body and make one sick. Thus such persons will be ignored and kept miles
away even by the dear ones but not God.
On the contrary, those who take care
and think well about the consequences before speaking, take measured steps and
balanced actions rise to dizzy heights, become exultant and popular in masses. They
prefer silence instead of shooting ugly and un-necessary words. Silence
increases will power and preservation of energy. Their words are as soft,
gentle, smooth and fragrant as the cheerful and colourful flowers. With these
qualities, their disposition will become tranquil, serene and humble and they
will wield respect everywhere and will broaden social stature as well as their
frozen relations and altercations will thaw.
Tongue lashing and curt words never
solve our problems but love, silence and wisdom do the trick. His neurons will
enhance and will keep neurological and many other problems at bay.
One’s thinking will become positive
and one will get sound sleep turning turbulent life into active and yielding
fructification for betterment. One becomes a man of wisdom, does not hurt the
sentiments of others which is a must and foremost condition to maintain cordial
relations.
If the result of the errant is persistently negative, there will be
drubbing from everyone. It will, ultimately, become a crass (stupidity and
insensitivity) case. In such a scenario people will feel hatred, dislike him
and keep a safe distance from him so that they do not mentally or physically
collide with him and lose balance of mind.
The only hope and antidote for the
above sort of offender, who is a fallen one, is spirituality which can rekindle
his inner blazing flame of anger, hatred and revenge but he has to take a firm
stand to overcome his follies. He requires a real mentor, redeemer and divine
figure to catapult him from his worsening situations and kick out of slumber
and cap his bewildering emotions by awakening his latent potency. Due to
inordinate delay if such a person is, mistakenly, plagued with ego and speaks
blaspheme against God; his complete deterioration is sure unless he is
determined for improvement. If he becomes obedient to the mentor and God, the
Supreme Lord will respond favourably. Mind it, even God helps those who help
themselves by surrendering to Him and His will in total/entirety. Also the
greatest conqueror is the one who conquers himself first. He should reform,
equipoise and divinize, be free from anxieties in such a way that he becomes an
example of crest jewel for others. Our feelings of hatred towards such persons
can be overcome with love and not hatred. Also our attitude should be of
sympathy, consideration and kindness which will have beneficial effect on us
also. At the same time they will gain spirituality with compassion and wisdom
which should be instilled in them. Loose talk is a road-block for achieving
godliness, patience and equanimity.
Reining the tongue comes under the
code of conduct for a spiritual person who believes in mutual and universal
brotherhood. Instead of wasting precious moments of our life we must devote
time in meditation for connecting to God, selfless service to humanity and gaining other virtues. One can
achieve happiness when one’s mind is anchored in peace. One who can- not
introspect or search own heart/ inner realm, not being detached from outer
earthly world can never achieve peace. By keeping silence with concerted
efforts and
absorbing
oneself in God through meditation, like Lord Buddha, one will get enlightenment
and peace. One gets inspiration of calmness, quietness and innocence even from
the facial image of Lord Buddha.
It is hoped that we will desist from
the ugly trait of tongue lashing with bitter and aggressive words and instead
earn Lord’s sweet grace, blessings, ecstasy and magnanimity for human race.
Amen!
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