SELF CONTROL AND YOU
_A P ANAND
A self control is a fine fettle and
middle path to remain healthy and balanced under controlled/ subjugated nerves.
The maverick behavior is not helpful. A person having this quality will not
care about the ears and eyes of others but will have faith and entrenchment in
own self and not drool after any one for help, nor back-track from endeavors.
No doubt he will face many debacles in life which will, rather, prove as
nourishment in the long run. He will not act like politicians of today who
retract, very often, from their committed statements to gain some mileage which
is considered as self character assassination. A self controlled person will
either avoid or overlook any unwanted/ undesirable happenings/situations. He
will not cross his confines under any circumstances and will try to control
himself in taking excessive measures to avoid roiling the situation. Being in
high esteem, thoughtful and disciplined ways, he will use his vital energy in
non-violent manner. Mind it that fasting and vow of divine silence in protest
are the sharp weapons of self controlled persons, like Mahatma Gandhi and his
ilk, which could/ can cut ice to calm down the raging passions of those against
his/ their ideals. Self controlled persons are open and whole hearted imbibing
magnanimity and eschew ego which blunts the mind of almost every person. He can
face-lift his lost glory and achieve the highest pedestal and combat his self
created low feelings with the guidance and help of his torch-bearer.
Patience and resilience are very much
desired of the seeker of spiritual path. A self controlled person has patience
like a ‘Chatak’ bird (Pied crested cuckoo) which waits for a long time till it
drinks first drop of rain-water to quench thirst. He also becomes flexible like
a tortoise under the given circumstances, Gita also says so.
One who loses control of self is
branded as a lazy person and will destabilize his own life and that of others
as well. He has no control over sense organs and will have penchant for lust
and cravings for unwanted things. He may even duck the humble advice of others
and stick to his own guns. If not controlled in time, such a person will become
irresistible and irrepressible and may adopt unbalanced ways in business and
public dealings also. He will be kicked around by life. We should not forget
the end result of King Ravana who did not control his unrighteous ways, though
a highly learned person, in spite of humble advice.
An uncontrolled person will be
demoralized and will be out of gear. He will become a self-denial personality
without wits, withdrawn, wishy-washy and holder of unpopular views. His
decisions will depend upon others. He will disenchant others easily and may
become intolerant, impudent (disrespectful), insane, fanatic and grouchy to
stoke anger. He will easily become victim of authoritarianism. He may suffer
from addiction of many miseries/ diseases and become unhealthy like a living
corpse. His lust for love/ romance, especially one-sided, will recede his
will-power and will throw him to abyss. His pristine beauty and chastity are
lost and mind mystified. He will indulge in unlawful activities, corruption and
embezzlement and subversion rules.
On the other hand a self controlled
person will strengthen his stamina and reflexes (stimulations) and win the
hearts of others as his mood and vigour elevate due to which he enjoys life. He
is firm and aggressive in his resolve and may take to his stride even the
cogent criticism. He is never frustrated to face obstacles of life and will
never switch over to unhealthy life style. The resistance power and confidence
of such persons increase as well as control over anger and language laced with
sarcastic words which act as sharp edged deep penetrating weapons to denigrate
others. Thus he becomes an embodiment of gentle personality with fine qualities
to weave better relations with others. He will neither adopt illicit means for
his personal gains nor impinge upon the feelings and sovereignty of others. He
is perfectly fit to live in solitude for transformation towards spirituality.
A self controlled spirited person can
achieve the grace of God and ecstasy with his will-power, faith and devotion. His
all ills and worries will vanquish even by chanting Lord’s name. He becomes a
righteous person and will sacrifice everything for the sake of others. In other
words he will act as “Sankat Mochan” (Remover of woes) for anyone who is in
distress, is fallen, Like Sri Hanuman who served and helped Sri Rama in many
ways and still considered himself as self-effaced. Swami Vivekananda rightly
said, “Face the difficulties boldly, fear is sin and degradation; find out
truth for yourself and do well to all others.” The person of these traits will
also concentrate and control his mind through meditation and study of
scriptures for gaining peace, purity and reality. It is mind which remains
restless, bouncy and fleeting. Due to his fortitude nature he will not abandon
his chosen path under any circumstances, like an ant. With his other qualities
like renunciation, absence of hatred, compassion, patience, truth, absence of
ego and anger and forgiveness etc., will gush down towards fortitude. He will
become monotheist (believer in one formless God_ “Ek Onkar”- in comely form).
Bhagvad Gita says that selfishness, anger and
greed are gateways to hell. To achieve best result in self control the efforts
should be persistent. The author believes and hopes that we all will become
infallible and indomitable personalities with our godly traits and will never
meekly submit to unnatural situations under the spirit of self control.
A P ANAND
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