HARMONIOUS RELATIONS—LIFE IN PARADISE
--A P ANAND
Do not snap the thread of love by a jerk;
Once snapped, it cannot be rejoined without a knot.
--Saint
Rahim
It
all depends upon us as to what type of relations we want to have with others on
this earth. If we tread cautiously on right path in life we can create paradise
on earth otherwise we will be sucked in the whirlpool of life, never to come
out of it and will lead baffling life. An old adage says, “You can bring the
horse to drink water from the pond but cannot force it to do so.” If one is not
an enigmatic/ mysterious person but open to all, one can do wonders in making
relationships. The calibrated and co-ordinated efforts can bring positive
results. The borders of USA and Canada are porous but still these countries
have amicable relations. The power (hydro-electric) generation on their borders
at Niagara Falls is a glaring example of their co-operative relations. There is
no word of secessionism heard in these countries. On the other hand, relations
between Israel and Palestine and India and Pakistan remain tense which badly
mar their development. Situations in many other countries are at impasse with
their adjoining ones. Good relations and love are the magic panacea/ antidote
to solve many intricate problems and to live happily and peacefully. Our
motivation, skill and intelligence decide to be successful or not in our
efforts to maintain cordial relations with others. If not taken care to mend
our relations, we will end up in fragile situation. The wise people have larger
remit to straighten the affairs and welfare of their country. We require a
leader/ guru/ mentor to inspire, shampoo our mind and show us the right path
and we as the followers should be able to accept his lead and advice in faith
and even sacrifice/ perish ourselves for the right cause. In our family
relations also we require faith and love for merger, complete/ perfect unique bond
and revitalization.
It is the monster ego/ pride which
cause us a great fall and rumple/ disarrange our life. At the same time we
should not use sarcastic words while dealing with people. This riles the whole
atmosphere. Never, ever, switch over from using the words “Chandar mukhi” (moon
faced) to “Jwala mukhi” (erupted volcanic faced) for anyone which have
disastrous ramifications. Improper speech causes complete discord. The
perfectly weighed words with wisdom not only melt down the hard knocks but also
infuse momentum/ fast-track to arrive at an amicable decision. Rancour or
feeling bitterness never loosen the tangles but will destroy your inner self.
To improve relations we should keep the irritants aside. Sometimes, silence
speaks volumes and sorts out many problems by itself.
While dealing with others one has to
maintain niceties of all kinds. Also trick, diplomacy, forceful advocacy and
magnanimity instead of using repressive measures work wonders. Cordial
relations are very necessary to make wide consensus amongst all concerned for
better co-ordination based on good judgments. Besides, good qualities like
adjustment, tolerance, let-go, forgiveness, perseverance, tenacity,
self-confidence, compassion, faith and calming down of frayed mind etc. are
desirable. Sometimes, we have to use the trait of quid pro quo to achieve
fruitful and productive result. With these qualities our inner light will
increase and glow to remove inset ignorance. We should not blame others for
their deficiencies and waste time but correct ourselves and take others along
with us.
There are numerous good results
attached to good qualities. There is a win-win situation on all fronts.
Relations keep you in a loop and you consider/ treat the whole world as one
nation leading to brotherhood. The achievements of the people will qualify them
to become citizens of the whole world. Strong relations give push to economy,
tourism, sports, cultural and other exchanges exult and exalt us. People and
their understandings come closer. Union is strength and people get sound sleep
due to overall stability. There is less spending on defence. Success will
result in satisfaction and hilarious mood. If you wish to exude fragrance of
rose in your life, then, first, you should learn how to burn yourself like a
lamp. The flag-bearer has to become disciplined himself first to make others to
follow him. One will get a standing ovation wherever he goes. This way you will
be riding the crest and achieve a foot-hold in relationships. If you do good to
others your flag of fame will flutter on a high mast and the trumpet of fame
will beat and its sound will be heard loudly everywhere.
When the relations are dampening,
there is an enormity of spirituality. Spirituality creates universal
brotherhood while religions create wide chasm and wedges in relations. It heals
many infested wounds and there is no place of insincerity in it. It acts like
icing a cake. Spirituality helps us to carry forward relations even if they are
frozen and at an impasse stage for a long time. When we start realizing that
all souls are same, then we will feel pain/ suffering and pleasures of others
as of our own. It totally reforms us. We rise above the perceived ideas of our
lowest ebb. There is absence of hatred and pride; control of senses, skill of
understanding and under the sway of humanity, patience and positive attitude.
Spirituality checks and sorts out many communal and religious differences/
outrages.
Our scriptures talk of many instances of
sacred relationships based on platonic love, faith and friendship. They are of
Mira Baii and Lord Krishna, Lord Krishna and Sudama, Lord Krishna and Arjuna
and Lord Krishna and Gopis (maidens) of Vrindavan. In the same way Lord Krishna
came to the rescue of Daropadi when she was dragged to the court and her Sari
became ad infinitum due to divine intervention while she was being strip bared
in much undignified way in front of all. Lord Rama’s relations with Lord Hanuman
were of Master and Servitor as Lord Hanuman was/is considered as “Sankat Mochak”_Trouble
Shooter/ Vanquisher of troubles. On the contrary, everyone knows about the sour
relations between Lord Rama and King Ravana who due to clouding of vision and
in the fit of lust abducted Sita from her hermitage when in exile though he was
a very learned king. Also we should not ignore one of the causes of Mahabharta
war when Daropadi (wife of Pandavas) used sarcastic language against Daryodhan
(eldest son of blind king Dhratrashtra) as a “ son of the blind is blind”. He
had come to see her (Daropadi) and fell in a water pond which was a mirage,
misjudging it as a plain ground.
Life is transitory and making good
relations will make us happy and we will remain at peace. We should try our
best not to rake up old tangled issues which will hang over our head as shadow and affect our spirits and future.
Life must go on at all cost. In relationships we have to, very often, sacrifice
our own comforts and interests for the sake of others. We should treat and
behave with others as we like them to do with us. If we leave behind anger,
arrogance, harshness and conceit we will win many laurels. International
Co-operative movement can bring a great positive change in our lives. We should
keep the tradition of archaic times about treating our guest as a god. We
should live in faith and hope. There is always light at the end of tunnel. We
get comfort after overcoming our difficulties/ upheavals as scorching heat of
summer is followed by cooling rainy season.
A P ANAND
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